Mirror of Love

“We look into mirrors, but we only see the effects of our times on us — not our effects on others


Parents are appointed by God to take responsibility and accountability of your child. A child is born out of love. It becomes a triangle of love in a good sense as a family. To be a parent is it a choice, desire or by force. Children must be born out of love, after birth when you look at your child, it’s the reflection of love in a mirror. The child feels the love when he/she grow up with both parents.

Kids are perfect mirrors of their parents. They are always watching, always listening. Mostly, kids' “bad” behavior comes from watching parents when they are angry. Kids pick up on the little things we do. They pick up on our good qualities, but the glaring characteristics are the ones we wish we did not portray. If you want to fix kids’ behavior, first, look in the mirror and fix your “self.”

If you anger easily, or kick something, or throw something in anger, they are sure to notice. Kids do not subscribe to the do as I say, not as I do, way of thinking. They do what they see. Their behaviors, combined with similar genetic qualities, may have you looking at a miniature version of your “self.”

Parents feel proud to be called, daddy and mommy. The moment parents experienced difficulties in their relationships as parents/family, it shows that there is a crack in the mirror of love and later it will or might fall into pieces. This is where Gender Base Violence might start and take control of Parenting. This is only one aspect.


“The child gets frustrated and irritated, they used to play at the park now they alone due to social distancing. They feel scared, lonely, and sad. Who is comforting your child? The parent also feels frustrated, emotionally confused, and stressed out..”


EFFECT OF A BROKEN MIRROR:

• Failing as a parent cause emotional struggle

• Unworthiness

• Fear for unknown

• Anger


Parenthood during Covid 19 triggers more emotional struggles. In you past you went through GBV whereby you struggled to cope with your emotions. One of them was fear, no GBV goes without fear, the victim will try to suppress the emotion and build a wall around herself to protect her. This unknown virus is causing also fear and woken a lot of the emotions experienced.

Parents feel powerless, fearful. They try to protect their families against the virus, which is not guaranteed, Basic needs to your child you can't met due to unemployment, financial challenges, which lead to poverty.

Education is uncertain, future dreams are scattered e. g. You child in matric will he/she have success. Kid’s lockdown at home, skills to build your child's self-esteem, socialization, is in vain.

The child gets frustrated and irritated, they used to play at the park now they alone due to social distancing. They feel scared, lonely, and sad. Who is comforting your child? The parent also feels frustrated, emotionally confused, and stressed out.

The only contact to the world is through social media. There is no expression of love no hugs and kisses even the fear to hug and kiss your own flesh and blood. No proper communication through the mask which is also a form of frustration and irritation.

This is also one of the reasons why stats on GBV is on the increase.

Spiritually everybody is on their knees, People are asking and wondering why God is allowing this.

In the word of the Lord, He said Love your neighbour as you love yourself. Can you express love, without touching?

Parents should never lose hope, never feel like a failure during this time of fear. God still give promise by saying fear not...as no matter your iniquities as a parent (jail bird, prostitute, drug addict etc. You will always be a parent to your biological child.

Regardless of your background, when your kids begin reflecting less than desirable qualities, it is time to look at yourself, especially if you are repeatedly correcting behavior that strikes a chord of familiarity with how you act.

Every time you look into a mirror, an image is reflected.

“We look into mirrors, but we only see the effects of our times on us — not our effects on others

The mirror of love can fall into pieces. He our Creator will still design and create something beautiful with that piece. With the impossible He can make it possible.

Let’s use this GBV chat room to build something beautiful out of broken pieces/ lives.

I believe we as Lopeco act as the foundation to restore the reflection of the broken mirror (brokenness of society) through educating, empowering and to advocate against GBV by parenting the assignment process given by God.

- Jacqueline van Wyk




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